Green Flags Test — Spot a Healthy Partner
Identify the healthy traits in your relationship to celebrate and protect.
Green Flags Test
Name what's working so you can protect and grow it.
Most relationship content focuses on what to avoid. Our Green Flags Test flips the script: it helps you name what's working so you can protect and amplify it. Healthy relationships aren't accidents — they're patterns, and you deserve to see them clearly.
What is a green flag?
A green flag is a recurring behaviour that signals emotional health and long-term partnership potential. They tend to look quiet from the outside — they're not grand gestures so much as consistent, low-drama habits.
Examples:
- They take accountability without being asked
- They make you feel safe to be unpolished
- They show interest in your inner world (your friends, your fears, your weird hobbies)
- They repair after conflict instead of disappearing
- They speak well of you when you're not in the room
- They're consistent — the version you get on Monday is the same as Saturday
- They make space for your growth rather than feeling threatened by it
- They follow through on the small things
If you're seeing 6+ of these regularly, you're in something rare. Protect it.
Why naming green flags matters
We're wired to scan for threats — it's how our brains stay alive. The downside is that we often miss the slow accumulation of safety, kindness, and consistency that is love. Naming the green flags out loud:
- Reinforces what you want more of.
- Builds gratitude, which is the single strongest predictor of long-term satisfaction.
- Calibrates your standards for future relationships.
- Tells your partner what you love so they keep doing it.
After the quiz
If your green flag score is high, send a screenshot to your partner with a specific compliment. If it's lower than expected, ask: are these flags actually missing, or have I stopped noticing them?
Pair this with
- Red Flags Test for the other side of the picture
- Love Language Quiz so you can spot green flags in your language
- Toxic Relationship Test if you have concerns mixed with the good
Healthy is a habit. Build it on purpose.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I take this about a friend or family member?
Absolutely — many green flags apply to any close relationship. Adapt the questions in your head if needed.
What's a higher number — more green flags is better, right?
Yes, more is generally better, but every relationship has off-weeks. Look at the long pattern, not yesterday.
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